Best Practices· 3 min read· By The SpideyChat Team

Confidentiality Questions Before Anybody Opens Up

He will not book anything until he knows who else might hear about it. A checklist for confidentiality.


A senior manager is offered coaching by his employer. He has a genuine problem he would like help with, which involves his own performance and his relationship with his director.

He cannot establish who would hear about it. The coach is being paid by the company. Somebody in human resources arranged it. He does not know whether progress is reported, whether themes are shared, or what would happen if he said he was thinking of leaving.

So he uses the sessions to discuss something safe. The coaching is pleasant, achieves nothing, and the company concludes that coaching does not work.

1. State the confidentiality position before anybody books

Prominently, since it is the first question and the one that determines whether the coaching is useful at all.

2. Explain the corporate arrangement specifically

Who pays, what they receive, and what is and is not reported, which is where almost all the anxiety in corporate coaching sits.

3. State what an employer is told

Typically attendance and nothing else, and saying so explicitly is what allows somebody to actually use the sessions.

4. Explain the limits honestly

Risk of serious harm, legal requirements and supervision, which exist in any professional arrangement and should be named rather than implied.

5. Explain supervision

That coaches discuss their work with a supervisor, usually without identifying details, which people find alarming when discovered and unremarkable when told.

6. Explain what notes are kept

What is recorded, where, who could access it and for how long, which is a concrete question deserving a concrete answer.

7. Explain the three way contracting

Where an employer, a coach and a coachee all have interests, the arrangement should be agreed in writing by all three before the first session.

8. Explain what happens if somebody wants to leave

The most common unspoken topic in corporate coaching, and the one people most need to know is safe to raise.

9. Explain the group programme position

Where confidentiality depends on other participants as well as the coach, which is a different and weaker assurance, as in group programmes and workshop questions answered.

10. Explain the online session privacy

Platform, recording and what the coachee should do about their own environment, which matters for somebody working from home.

11. Explain the practical discretion

How contact is made, what appears in a calendar and whether a coachee can control how they are contacted.

12. Put it in writing before the first session

A short agreement covering all of it, since verbal reassurance is forgotten and a written statement is returned to.

13. Explain the position on references and endorsements

Whether a coach would ever comment on somebody professionally, which people wonder about and never ask.

Explain the position if the employer changes the arrangement

Where a company restructures its programme or the sponsor leaves, and what happens to ongoing sessions, which coachees worry about once they have invested in the relationship.

14. Answer the who will know question before anybody enquires

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Frequently asked questions

Is coaching confidential?
Generally yes within stated limits, and those limits vary considerably between arrangements, particularly where an employer is paying, which is exactly the situation people most need explained.
What do people worry about?
Whether an employer will be told anything, whether notes are kept, who else sees them, and what would happen if they said something serious.
Why does it stop people booking?
Because somebody considering coaching usually has something specific they want to discuss, and the risk of it reaching the wrong person outweighs the benefit of the coaching.

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